Steve Hunt wrote:I suspect that my Mum has early stages of dementia.
The problem is that my Dad is in denial & is covering up for her.
Not good
Same here - I first suspected a few motnths ago.
On Thursday my dad was taken into hospital, normally a healthy man, he hadn't been in hospital since he had his tonsils out when he was 7 so I went up there. A scan revealed suspected cancer, but he came home over the weekend. I stayed with them and then made the decision to have him readmitted as he wasn't doing well at all.
I took him up to the hospital myself on Saturday night with my mum and we got home at midnight.
My mum kept saying "Where's your dad?" I'd reply "he's in the hospital mum" - she'd break down in tears, recover a bit and 10 minutes later say "Where's your dad?" and the cycle would start again.
My aunt took me to one side a couple of days later whilst my dad was in surgery and said "I need to talk to you about your mum" - turns out Dad has been writing stuff down for her.
My dad is still in intensive care having had the whole of his large bowel removed so obviously I can't bring it up with him, but I worry about him coming out of hospital.
I live 120 miles away and whilst it will sound selfish I've done the journey backwafd and forward about 4 times since Thursday, I've had to be the strong one because everyone else is a mess, I came down for a few hours for my middle boys birthday on Sunday, back again last night because my older one wasn't coping at all and he needed his dad. I'm fucking exhausted already I went to bed at 8:30 last night and flaked out completely - not waking up until 6 am this morning.
There's no way I can keep this up when he comes out of hospital, but there's also no way my mum can look after him. It's a fucking nightmare.